Reputations Part 2

[same_difference]

So as far as I can gather I don't appear to have one. *shrugs*

Or one that no one is willing to tell me about.

Comments

[same-difference.livejournal.com]

I'm tired. I had to read that three times to get it to make sense in my head.

I suppose I wondered if I had any specific reputation as such. A thought I found vaguely amusing to be honest. The line 'Or one that no one is willing to tell me about.' was supposed to be vaguely tongue in cheek, but as always my sense of humour is hit and miss.

At the end of the day I (mostly) stopped worrying what other people think of me a while ago. I trust that those I choose to associate with know what am I like, and those I do not choose to associate with don't matter. I don't think I give a false impression of myself, though I do open up over time, to the point and which I generally find myself comfortable to talk about anything. Regardless I believe (probably as everyone does) I will always be the one of the most critical people when it comes to myself, though I always welcome criticism from those who I consider friends because it is the best way to improve myself.

In the end what really interests me with these things, is who chooses to comment, what they say and how they say it.

[prosepina.livejournal.com]

Agreed.
I stopped worrying what people think too. This is in part because a whole host of people I have probably embarassed myself in front of over time will either have forgotten I exist, not known me in the first instance, or regularly tease me about said incidents in the pub over a friendly pint.

If I were to discuss what reputations you had, pfff, I dunno. I would like to believe people think you are generous because you are, especially with your time and your wheels. I would hope people recognise you as smart and funny. You have a tendency towards self-induced catatonia but I am sure that only applies to Saturday mornings, household chores and your family when you know you can get away with it.

I agree with Drabbit's summaries re:general reputation. I know I am regarded in some quarters as hard working, others as absent, others as very supportive and others again as hard nosed and intolerant. Reputation certainly is context dependent.

[marmaladecat]

Whoa, whoa, whoa people!

I think you guys have mis-interpreted Liz's comment! I think it was simply meant as an innocent "I don't really know you, Dom, except by what I've heard of you from other people" - I don't think any "bad" reputation or notoriety was being implied. :)

And you /don't/ have a bad rep. I'd seriously challenge anyone who tried to imply that you do.

[drabbit.livejournal.com]

I concur - it's very hard to find out everything of what someone thinks of you - it takes years usually and that after a year or two at least of them forming the opinion. Then just once you get there, their opinion changes because of something. It's just not worth worrying about - people will like you or not for their own reasons and ultimately the reasons don't matter as much as the action of liking or disliking you and how that's expressed.