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same_difference ([personal profile] same_difference) wrote2005-05-03 01:28 pm

Reputations Part 2

So as far as I can gather I don't appear to have one. *shrugs*

Or one that no one is willing to tell me about.

[identity profile] almosthonest.livejournal.com 2005-05-03 05:42 am (UTC)(link)
Well, being "known by reputation" doesn't necessarily mean you have a reputation that can be deftly summarised into a few words; but more that shadows of your existence spread out into your friendship group and can be referenced without your direct presence. Like "Oh yeah, Dom, he's the chairman of SciFi", for example...

[identity profile] elmyra.livejournal.com 2005-05-03 05:56 am (UTC)(link)
I think I probably know you a bit too well/directly to go by reputation, so I've no idea what it is.

[identity profile] drabbit.livejournal.com 2005-05-03 06:49 am (UTC)(link)
Asking people to describe your reputation is somewhat unkind, both to them and yourself.

Reputation is part fact, part fiction, and parts of both will be good and parts bad (and parts indifferent data, such as Alex's example, though usually people will have gained an impression that makes your rep "he is a good chairman of Sci Fi" or the alternative or something inbetween). Your associates will know which is which and will know the truth from the fiction, but will not want to relay the bad and will feel dishonest about relaying the good without the bad.

Those who know you only by reputation, if they pass a Wisdom check DC5, will be aware that some of what they have heard will be unfriendly or mildly discourteous at least. They will not wish to upset you, unless they possess a vindictive personality, in which case you can't rely on their testimony.

Similarly, should your sister ever question such directly, she will inevitably receive evasive answers as people will assume what is said to her is said to you. Consequently her question is unlikely to ever be answered in full, though you can probably get a gamut of the good things to pass on if you approach people in private conversation rather than in this somewhat open forum.

I disclaimer this as follows: this is a generalised answer with no statement as to personal belief or knowledge of good or bad points to either your nature or reputation. This is a comment to how people relate, not what I or anyone else may actually think of you. By which I mean I can't think of anything good to say about you at all. ;)