ext_303176 ([identity profile] aralli.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] same_difference 2014-07-21 01:01 am (UTC)

confrontation without disrupting the situation or unfairly ruining the mood for anyone else

For what it's worth, I believe your friends care enough about your happiness and wellbeing that they would prefer to have a bit of disruption once, where you can tell this person that their behaviour is unacceptable, than keep going with you being unhappy and feeling powerless about it.

DEAR MAN can be a really useful technique for when you need to tell someone difficult things or assert your needs. By sticking rigorously to the pattern it gives, you can stop an argument from happening by not giving other people's hostility any traction.

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